i sit here tonight with so much emotion
not for myself
but for some very special people in my life
they are suffering the worst kind
i want so bad for them not to be going through what they are
i want so bad to help
i want so bad to wipe away their turmoil and grief
all i can do is be the friend who hugs, who sends love and support through email
all i can do is love them and be there for them
but damn it i wish i could do more
i hate when people i love are suffering...
i know we can't always help or fix "it" and that they need to go through this to get to the other side
i know we are all on our own paths
but FUCK, when they are in the middle of it and I see the pain it just doesn't make a hell of a lot of sense!
Stef,
you're a compassionate and devoted friend... that's enough to do and be. and you're so wise to see that friends have to go through pain to get to the other side.... the journey they're on is the only way to get there. once they're there, they'll receive so much more than they ever wished for themselves if they open themselves to possiblities. i've seen this happen in my long life time and time again. in my zen class, the teacher commented: what we wish for ourselves is so meager compared to the profound generosity the universe has in store for us. when we limit our perspective we become myopic and completely blind to what will truly fulfill us and make us happy. don't extinguish your own happiness by trying to carry this friend's grief... trust that life will get better for them.