June 01, 2005

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I am a girl, a woman, sometimes a miss, but never a mam or a lady
I am a daughter, a granddaughter, a sister, a friend, and a wife
Now a mother
A mother who struggles to find her way, to not feel the intense guilt or worry
A woman who needs to lose weight
A woman who has acne and tries excessively to get rid of it
A woman who needs to be plucked and waxed
A woman who has every intention to call you back but sometimes just doesn’t
A woman who has secrets that will never be told
A woman who has 1 regret
A woman who uses the word “fuck” way too much
A woman who obsesses
A woman who has breasts that were once used for attention now are used for food
A woman who has every intention to get out there but is scared
Scared of what
She’s still trying to figure that out
A woman who reads self-help but thinks a break would be good
A woman who has come a long way to some and not long enough for others
A woman who tries to be happy but finds it very hard
A woman who expects way too much
A woman who has friends who “get” her but live so far away
A woman who has a daughter of her own
A woman who listens well
A woman who admires way too many people
A woman who can be selfish
A woman who can love with all of her heart
A woman who will never forget a face but will always forget a name
A woman who will turn 32 this month – the day meaning everything but the number not a thing
A woman who craves nourishment in all areas
A woman who loves music and cannot, not tap her feet to the beat
A woman who loves to travel
A woman who craves the adventure, the escape
A woman who is shy and tries so hard not to be
A woman who can fall asleep at a blink of an eye but is awake at 2am
A woman who needs to be loved
A woman who craves that great kiss and those kinds of hugs
A woman who need spontaneity
A woman who photographs
A woman who writes
A woman who has loads of dreams
A woman who’s realized the fears that consume her
A woman who thinks about death way too much
A woman who keeps in touch
A woman who is thoughtful
A woman who is always looking around the next corner
A girl just trying to figure herself out

Posted by stef at June 1, 2005 08:04 AM
Comments

you are beautiful and your list makes me well up AND i'm not even PMSing (for once). xxxxxx, mati

Posted by: mati at June 3, 2005 03:53 PM

you are a wonderful woman, and a wonderful mother, even when you don't feel like it. please be gentle with yourself, you are doing better than you think. (p.s. breasts used for food is a very strange thing, isn't it?)

Posted by: julie at June 3, 2005 12:36 PM

you are a woman of the very best kind, and to whom i can totally relate except of course for the boobies/food thing :)
love you
jen

Posted by: jen at June 3, 2005 07:48 AM

I'm so glad you're my friend. Reading this makes me miss you even more than I already did. Happy birthday month!!!

Posted by: cynthia at June 2, 2005 07:16 PM

that's awesome steffers, i felt every bit of it!
love you lots!

Posted by: amy at June 2, 2005 07:06 PM

I thought I was the only one....Thank you.

Posted by: Veronica at June 2, 2005 11:39 AM

Thank you for posting that. It was very moving and inspirational. You often make my day with your thoughts and insight.

Posted by: Beastmomma at June 2, 2005 08:55 AM

Stef,

Very insightful. I love it.

Jenn

Posted by: jenn at June 1, 2005 06:41 PM

right on. a wonderful, complex and insightful affirmation of self identity. thanks, stef.

Posted by: Maya Stein at June 1, 2005 06:32 PM

I love your site!
Your photography is stunning to say the very least.
Your writing always makes me pause and think for many many moments.
Congratulations on being a new Mother!


Posted by: Mary at June 1, 2005 02:09 PM

This is awesome. It's about time you focus on YOU.
It's difficult to bring a new person into your world and take on the role of a mother. You'll always be Steffers, you've just added a new dimension to how you and the rest of the world see you. And that picture of Kadison that you sent - Gimme those cheeks!
miss you-
Missy

Posted by: Missy at June 1, 2005 02:08 PM

wow. you sound a lot like me... i'm glad we found each other :)
~dps

Posted by: danielle at June 1, 2005 12:12 PM